Don't give up!!!!! Try try try try try …and try unless you succeed.
Be focused. Have that killer instinct to get there !!!!!
Be passionate and just do it !!!!
These words can be found in every single book on management, leadership or any kind of self improvement , inspirational or motivational books, which are millions in number.
So that's what I did, I never gave up, I tried continuously for 3 years to become a rock star. I wrote 100s of songs, that no one ever listened to , I composed thousands of melodies, most of which even I don like today.
But…..I never gave up, I kept trying and trying , I was focused and passionate about it.
Then one fine day, after around 4 years of hard work , patience and pain.
I realized that I've failed completely and I said to myself "What a time waste !!!!!".
Ladies and gentlemen, respected GE and dear guests , I'd like to share with you today, what I call the deepest secret known to every body !!!! "The formula on how to fail successfully?"
We will discuss what why and how…!!!
First the What ?
Let me explain you about what I am talking about, how can one fail successfully?
We all have had many successes and failures in our life. Let us go back and think what made you more matured and strong. ?
My personal believe is that all the failures that I've been through have made me a successful person.
If we can use failure to our benefit , it will be called faling successfully.
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And success is nothing but its Synopsys office at 4th floor and failures are like the stairs and the elevator used to reach here.
It is said that
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Just imagine if he would not have failed 1000 times, we will all be sitting here with candles in the hands of SAA and the toastmaster of the day.
He failed and he failed successfully.
So its simple, if you can make failure a stepping stone to success and our growth. You;ve failed successfully.
Lets move to Why ?
Why should you fail successfully ? Simply to make your self look successful.
When I tried to get into Indian Airforce , I failed in the first stage itself.
When somebody asks me "Hey I heard you failed in National Defense exam ? "
I'll retaliate, who said that, I gave it up. I am peace loving and can't kill any one.
Jesus said, love thy enemy. So I just dropped the idea of joining defense services.
When I failed to become a rock star, people will make fun of me and ask hey what happened to your band " Sober Monsters" ? I said, I'll say I've not failed I am still trying.
So the answer to why is , that if do not make a habit of failing successfully. We will make our life hell.
Undoubtedly we fail more often than we succeed. Success comes once in a blue moon, but we fail daily. We fail daily in our relationships, at our work and every day we face failure in some form or the other.
If we don't make use of it , we are just wasting our energy and letting go an opportunity to grow.
And Now lets move on to the most important part " how do we fail successfully. ? "
1) Accept your failure.
When you fail, accept it. Watch it closely. How it breaks you and how miserable it makes you feel. Just live it.
We try to hide our failures , we don't face it.
I remember once I prepared a very unique dance concept and went on to stage to perform it in a competition. I saw all the dances but I was so sure that I am gonna come first,
And when the prizes were announced, first not me, I said to myself, oh shit man this year I have to be satisfied with second prize, second wasn't me , I really got upset and thought I will not accept the third prize whatsoever, and to my surprise I was not even in consolation prizes and I realize I've failed completely. But I did not accept it.
I went around and asked who the hell these judges were, I am sure there is some cheating involved here and then I did not even participated in it next year. I did not accept that I failed. But it did me no good. Infact it made me more miserable.
Then slowly slowly I realized that I've failed, and started facing it and then the miracle happened , the confidence started building up and then third year I again participated in the same dance competition and this time….again I did not win. But I 've learnt accept the failure and that day I appreciated the judgment and congratulated the winners and then went to a corner as said to myself " you've failed again Shashi" But this time you've failed succefully.
When we accept our failure , understand our weak nesses and acknowledge others strengths, we've gained one of the most important quality of a successful person.
2) Take responsibility of it and don’t blame it on others.
Whatever has happened, take responsibility of your failure.
We all know what happened to Intel when F0 floating point bug was discovered in the Pentium processors, Intel kept from accepting their responsibilities and even tried to suppress the error. The result, Angry customers, disappointed scientist and furious media. Leading to loss of image, trust and stock prize.
To the contrary, we recently came across NOKIA battery flaws, and Nokia accepted the flaw as soon as it was discovered and immediately ordered the free replacement. Results more credibility.
If you fail and say I am responsible for whatever has happened, you are actually declaring your strength to stand humiliation, failure and kick on your face.
And this will what make you emerge much more stronger than you were. More credible and more successful. You are more capable of becoming successful now.
3) Learn from mistakes :-
“All men make mistakes, but only wise men learn from their mistakes.” -Winston Churchil.
Learning is important and what is learning , a simple understanding that I'll not repeat the same mistake again.
But man is the only donkey who falls in same pit again and again.
All these combined will help us fail in such a beautiful way that the happiness and the benefits are no less than succeeding, infact sometimes failure is better than success.
And the last but not the least , infact most important part of failing successfully …
4) Enjoy failure. just the way we enjoy success.
And the best example was when I we went recently to offsite and we had teams of 5 and we were announcing the results and the cats won, the dogs lost, now every team had many senior players and were disappointed for their failure.
But this one guy, Vikas of out TST team, as soon as we announced that Cats have won, the cats started dancing and enjoying, This guy from donkey's team stood up joined them and started dancing with them …
And nobody even realized that he has not won, only I knew coz I was a part of organizing committee and I could see that.
But actually he won inspite of being failed. This is what failing successfully all about is.
If we enjoy failure, its not less than a success.
What will you do if you become successful ? Enjoy ?right ? why not enjoy when you fail too….and be failed successfully.
In the end I'll summarize, 4 things 1) Accept your failure, 2) be responsible and don't blame others 3) Learn from mistakes and 4) Enjoy.
Today I'll exceed my time limits deliberately so that I can fail and then I'll try to fail successfully.
My quick analysis
I think the speech was received very well as it was well organized and met the speech objective.
Humor was again the key.
The impact was immense when I deliberately exceeded my time limit by 10 seconds to be disqualified as I wanted to fail and not win this speech contest.
It made my speech look authentic.
The negative was that I missed many key points from the speech while speaking. Lack of practice for sure.
I also presented way too many ideas in a single speech, I should have stuck to 2-3 main ideas.
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Thats a whole different perspective to life.. and it is so encouraging..
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